Am I not a good friend?

Maybe it's that I am so open, and honest. I feel like I am the only one that actually says what needs to be said, even when it is hard to hear. How can you call yourself a friend if you are not able to honestly say what you think or feel? I mean, we all need sometimes to just be loved, no advice, but if I see you in a self destructive pattern, I am going to tell you, I would hope you would do the same for me. But, I should not be sitting here blogging about how crappy it feels to be cast aside because you don't like to hear the hard truths about yourself. You don't like it, then don't pretend to be my friend, only to call when it works for you, only to come over when you are able...never asking (and truly caring) how I am, what I have going on. I am sick of not having anyone to be able to talk to and get a honest response from, something besides Gee thats too bad, or oh that nice....I want a genuine HONEST response!!! Why are people so incapable of being honest? Say what you think, mean what you say....Often, I probably say to much, or give my opinion where a hug should be inserted, but again if people were being honest with me and themselves, they would be able to say...hey i need a hug, and not hey i need to talk....UGH honesty is the lost art.